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| Wednesday, September 13, 2006 |
| Quasi update on Gary, etc. |
I forgot to post before now how the doctor's visit went with Gary. He didn't see the doctor on Monday but yesterday. We don't know any more now than we knew before the PET scan. They could not determine anything different with the PET. The surgeon said that he would have to refer Gary to Little Rock or Memphis to be seen there because he did not have the support or means to do the extensive surgery that Gary needs. He said that it would be at least an 8 hour surgery to remove the mass. This is a small hospital. They do have a bigger hospital in the neighboring town and I have questioned why he cannot go there but have not recieved an answer on that. They were suppose to call but have not called yet. This is so frustrating. I don't drive, thus I cannot take Gary to Memphis, which will be the choice of the two. Gary can get someone to take him down there and pick him up, but Gary has told me that he don't want to be there alone. My mother just told me that she would go down and be with him, which is a very kind thing of her to do. Especially with what she just went through. However, being selfish, I want to be the one there for my husband as he faces this and I can't be and I am kinda angry and hurt by it. Angry with myself, not anyone else. Another thing, the doctors here are seeing Gary for free. The doctor in Memphis I am sure will not. We don't have the money for a doctor's visit. I don't know what we will do, and before you rush to judgement, we don't have the money to put with the money we would save by cutting off the internet to afford them either. So may as well keep what keeps me sane. I don't know why I am worrying so much. God has provided for us so good up to now I don't know why I would think He would stop with this. I always worry and then it seems for nothing. You would think I would of learned by now. I just feel the longer they take the longer this thing has to grow or spread if it is cancer. Gary is in a lot of pain. He went back to work again last night. I know it was hard on him but he has to work up until the time for surgery. He only has a little less than 4 weeks of off time left that he can use. He went back to work the Wednesday before Max passed away but then took the 3 days grievance after the death. So last night was actually his second day back.
My mom is doing OK I guess. She is shopping to console herself and I am worried about that. She has done that for years. When she gets depressed she goes nuts buying things. She has to pay $14,000 in taxes next year and she has that set aside but I am afraid she is going to go through the rest of it too quickly. She paid off the car and the mortage on the house, the truck is paid off upon Max's death. Those were the things they owed on. Max was buried debt free. She mailed the car payment off the day of the funeral to make sure that he was. It was important to her. She will draw Max's SSA and his VA pension and if she don't go crazy with spending she should do fine. But really, that woman likes to spend money when she is upset, lots of it. I am like her and if I had money I would do the same. I do spend money that could go to better use when I am manic so I understand her feelings. Anything to get her out of the house I know is another factor. She does not like being home now. She especially hates it at night. It is hard on her. I love her so much.
Clay is doing OK. He caught up on all his home work that he missed in his AP classes and others but for a test he is taking in AP civics tomorrow. I am proud of him. They warned all the parents about a student missing one day in the AP classes at the meeting we had before school started. They said it would be very hard to catch up again by missing even one day. Clay missed 3 days. His grades so far are 5 A's, a C, and a D. He has a project to turn in for the class that he has the D in and that will bring that grade up and the same thing for the C class. The class with the C is an AP class and so it is really a B, or 3.0. It is funny, an A in those classes are 5.0's. Clay did real well with the death of his grandfather. Clay don't show emotions too much. He did miss getting one of the shell casing from the 21 gun salute and I didn't know it until Sunday night when he came to me and told me. I felt bad for him. He just won't speak up. I don't know what to do about that. My brother-in-law was handing them out and I asked Clay why he didn't ask for one, they were going to the grandkids. Clay told me he was afraid of his Uncle Shawn. I don't know why he would be afraid of him, Shawn has never done anything to him. He does speak in a gruff voice, maybe that is why.
Tracy is doing OK. She is staying with momma. I am so glad that she is able to do that. They help each other. Tracy is a God send. Also my mom has my other sister, Jerri, there. She moved down to be close so that she could help. My mom told me this evening that Jerri lifted her spirits today. I think she had her laughing. That is a good thing. I have some good sisters.
Later. God bless. Teressa. |
posted by Teressa @ 4:50 PM  |
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Hugs to you Teressa. Please keep us posted if you can.
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Your family seems so supportive of each other, it's so nice to see that. Is it possible that your mom will go to your house & stay with Clay so that you can go & be with Gary?
Woman, if I got down to broke, I'd collect cans out of the garbage to keep my internet. This is my lifeline! Don't EVER feel as though you have to explain that.
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I couldn't give up the internet either. : )
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You have gone and are going through SO MUCH! You and your family are in my prayers. I wouldn't give up the internet either - it's so cheap, what would it even help in the scheme of things?
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I just wrote a comment and it got eaten by the system here. I switched to blogger beta and they still need to iron out a few problems :( Anyway, I said that I hope Gary can go to the closer hospital so you can be with him. Having to go to a hospital so far away just makes it hard on everybody. You and yours have been thru so much this past year, I don't know how you can be asked to shoulder anymore. I'm with Jane...any recycling bin around my way full of beer cans (buncha drunks around my way,lol) is fair game when it comes to keeping up my 'net connection. We can at least have that if nothing else. A person would have to be inhuman to want you to give up your internet. No judges here..it is a mainstay for me too. Take care of yourself (((((((((Teri)))))))))...Linda
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You're in my thoughts, thought I'd stop by and say so ((((((((((Teri))))))))) love Linda
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Hugs to you Teressa. Please keep us posted if you can.