First of all, I am so happy to see you posted again. I was really becoming quite concerned about you.

Second, congratulations on being able to do some of those things for yourself. It's unfortunate that Gary feels that because of your ability, he will be unnecessary in the relationship. I've had those same fears/concerns in my own relationship so I can understand completely. You did the right thing, just keep letting him know that he will ALWAYS be needed. Some of us require an inordinate amount of reassurance.

 

Thats great that you are finally able to do those things alone. As for Gary, just reassure him that you will always need him emotionally, and thats whats most important!

 

So glad to see you are able to post, even though it was hard for you to do so. Have sympathy for Gary, but don't let it stop you from doing what you can for yourself. It's the same for me. While I am like I am now, fat and in pain and depressed, Gene is good to me, just bitches about what I don't do around the house. When I try to improve myself in any way, lose wt. or whatever I get the business. I hate that it is this way for you and me because in my case I feel guilty for everything and put everybody elses feelings ahead of my own. We all have issues like this in or lives. I say, do what you can about the house and yourself....Gary will come round

 

It's got to be hard on everyone right now. Breaking up the family because of stupid diability laws.
I'm sorry you are so numb. I sometimes think I'd raher be depressed than numb. At least that way I know I'm feeling something. If that makes any sense.
Glad Clay will be around to help out, but it sounds like you are becoming able to do more and more for yourself. That is wonderful.
Maybe you need to have a talk with Gary and let him know that even if you were in perfect health, you still love him and need him because he is your hubby or however you would express it in your own words.
I'm glad to hear from you. Even if you are feeling numb. Like to know how you are doing, the good, the bad, the ugly and the great.
Take care!
Babs

 

I'm adding something else because my answer yesterday was abrupt and rude to Gary. I need to stop commenting based on my own experience when it comes to relationships. I meant to say, that I feel very sorry for Gary in this instance. You should not have to make a choice between medical coverage and having your husband living with you as he should be. The way I see it, feeling numb is a way of living from day-to-day with an unbearable problem. I am sending loving and supporting thoughts to you for eveything you are going thru. I am so sorry. Hopefully some other way will be found...tell Gary you love him same as always and you both will work with this together....

 

Good to see you back I was worried about you. Every step forward is a reason for celebration. Congrats.
Every step will make you stronger, and you can do it.
{{{hugs}}}